Logging out of a relationship is hard. Growing up from the same neighborhood, we had known each other from childhood. Our relationship transgressed from classmates to friends to lovers. We had been together for 10 years plus. Yh l know. We started early. Way back from after our BECE to SHS to the university through to national service Lol.
We were in love. Everything was going to be well until one day, he woke up and told me he’s confused about his feelings. I didn’t have a clue on what’s going on even though I knew things were not the way it used to be.
The switch from chatting on a daily basis to good morning text messages to random visit and surprises was like switching from constant flow of electricity to Dumsor then boom power outage. I need not bore you with the details, everything was completely different now, in a nutshell we broke up even though I was still in love.
I was clueless initially and this brought much pain and touture but then I managed to do something about it and am going to share it with you.
I prevented myself from getting in touch with him. I wasn’t easy at first. I found myself stocking his social media accounts every now and then to see what’s happening at his end until I found the second clue which was
I distracted myself from thinking about him by hanging out with close friends and spending more time doing what I love most, created new hobbies and doing such taught me to accept who I am.
Accept the fact that there was nothing I could do than to embrace it. Thou it still hurts, I feel at ease now. Accepting it has much peace and it has paved a way for me to move on.
4. Moving On
Move on, they say time heals but for me maybe it doesn’t. It’s a phase that created memories. Looking back and reflecting, I can say that it’s a memory that brings back memories and brings back joy. ( A joy of allowing myself to go through the phase and get over it).
To you out there, if you are going through such, just be true to yourself and give yourself time to do the above stated. You will get use to it. Take as much time as you need. With time you will stop bothering over it and eventually be at peace for good.
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